In this episode, Ali moans about how he always comes across poorly in podcasts while Taimur always comes across well, and how this doesn't accurately represent how we are in real life.
Here are some of the highlights from our discussion:
It’s important to think through how your opinion may be misconstrued by others and factor this into statements that you make to ensure your viewpoint is understood correctly. If your goal is to communicate clearly, you don’t want your opinion to be misunderstood and therefore even if you have agreement on a particular subject, it’s still useful to explore where you might be wrong or how others may think about that issue. Much of the difference between how we come across can be explained by how the podcast discussions are framed.
People have different thresholds of how communally they want to live. Some people are simply more comfortable living and operating on their own and different relationships have different dynamics depending on how people prefer to operate and live. Ali’s tweet on this subject sparked debate on Twitter and this debate perhaps provides evidence that people have different opinions and attitudes towards it in wider society.
In the Courage to Be Happy, the authors argue that truly respecting and loving someone happens when you stop thinking in terms of I and starts thinking in terms of we. The I mindset misses out on entire dimensions of the human experience. It’s possible to have more of a we mindset and still do your own thing but there are concentric circles of community that we are all part of. There is your immediate family, people you live with, your friends and eventually this widens to the human race as a whole.
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