Some of the highlights from our discussion:
Dealing with rejection is about taking lessons from it but not dwelling on it. There is little point in dwelling on rejection. You should try to learn what you can from the experience but it doesn’t do anyone any good to dwell for too long on it.
Developing your own internal compass and avoiding being reliant on external validation to base your self-worth upon is important in dealing with rejection. We should aim to focus and control what is in our control rather than get caught up with the worldview of others. It is more effective to focus more in terms of ‘why’ and ‘what we could do’ about it than ‘this person rejected me’.
A big part of the sting of rejection is when our identity is tied up in the thing that we’re being rejected from. If your identity becomes tied to an external metric of success – classic example of exams – you’re feeling of rejection and/or failure will be intensified. The ideal is to have an identity that is entirely internally generated – i.e not relying on any external measures to be happy – that’s an ideal that we can strive for but very few of us can achieve. A more practical strategy is to diversify your identity rather than purely focussing on one metric.
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